How are your New Year’s goals going?

It’s almost the end of January, and with that, 2014 is a twelfth of the way through!

I looked at the calendar and realized it was a good time to check in regarding my New Year’s goals.

The glaring item: my goal to average 15 miles a week in 2014.

I met that goal one week out of four – and I was pretty happy with the chance to use some of that running time for other things.

In the winter, it’s often too cold and slippery to run with the double jogging stroller, not to mention how early in the afternoon it gets dark. Every time I run, I am using babysitter time, or taking time away that the four of us would have had as a family. That’s tough.

So I am changing my goal to 9 miles a week and a barre class in the winter, and then starting in late March or April I will begin training for my June half marathon and increase my mileage.

In the meantime, that’s time with my family, to organize, color, read stories, make better meals, and live a little less on the edge 🙂

I am, however, LOVING the barre class I am taking and the chance to diversify my fitness so that stays 🙂

How are your goals going? Did you pick appropriate ones for you?

More time for little moments like these – worth it :). (At least until stroller weather!)

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Dear Chad Stafko: OK, we’re happy to be runners. Get over it.

Recently someone called attention to a rather snide article in the Wall Street Journal opinion section called “OK, You’re a runner. Get over it.” The article, by Chad Stafko, ditches on 13.1 and 26.2 bumper stickers, on wearing race t-shirts in public, and jokes (I hope it’s a joke) that the only reason someone would “get up at 5 a.m. and run 10 miles adorned with fluorescent tape” is because “there is no more visible form of strenuous exercise than running” and in this age of social media, we crave attention and want to be seen.  Umm, right… because all the people I know are up at 5 a.m. looking out their windows to see if the person running by in reflective gear is someone they know, so they can then applaud them for it later.

Maybe we get up and do it because exercising makes us feel good, reduces our risk of heart attack and disease, gives us the pleasure of working towards goals and achieving them, and is an amazing way to get outside in the fresh air year round.

Maybe we enjoy advertising our distances because we like connecting to other runners, and inspiring people to start running because they look at us and realize how many normal people are doing it and how accessible it is.

Maybe we wish we lived in a country where more people were healthy and active, so we didn’t have to worry about friends, neighbors and relatives who are at higher risk for heart disease, type two diabetes, and stroke, and who aren’t living the same quality of life because they don’t exercise regularly.  Maybe every bumper sticker is an advertisement for a better way of living, not just a way to stroke our own egos by advertising our accomplishments.  Dear cars on the road, I see your Tony’s Donuts bumper sticker and I raise you one 13.1 bumper sticker.

In a world filled with advertising, we are advertising something healthy… something positive… something free.  And I guess, to Chad Stafko, something offensive.

In his defense, this guy is a journalist.  His job is to write entertaining, edgy articles that people want to read.  Perhaps in his world, snarky and controversial = funny, and offensive = viral.  It takes extra creativity to be funny without being negative, and it’s a lot easier to harp on some runners for advertising their joy of running than it is to take on big businesses for things that are actually harmful.  Maybe he was having a lazy day, or maybe it really bugs him that so many people are happy to be exercising.  His tone when writing about the rise in the popularity of running certainly made it sound like lots of runners isn’t a good thing.

I write a whole blog about running.  I have some good guesses as to what Chad Stafko would say about THAT.  But for every Chad Stafko, I’ve got people writing me e-mails and comments thanking me for helping them stay motivated to keep running, because they love the change it’s made in their lives.  There it is, right there – the positive impact of being public and talking about running is real.  The negative impact of irritating someone who thinks you’re an egomaniac for displaying your interest in running?  Let me just say, it’s probably not their biggest problem.

I suspect anyone annoyed by the sight of my 13.1 sticker or someone in a coffee shop wearing their race t-shirt is probably unsatisfied with their own life or level of fitness, and should do something about it.  Does it bother me when I see someone in a zumba t-shirt or with an ironman bumper sticker?  Um, no.  Not at all.  It might even give me something to talk to them about in line at the grocery store.  I found something active that I love to do, and I’m doing it.  I would be ecstatic to learn that you’ve done the same.

Maybe I’m crazy, but I like seeing people posting selfies of themselves at the gym, or doing something awesome.  I stay on Facebook so I can see my friends’ photos and updates, and nothing makes me happier than seeing my friends doing things they’re proud of and happy about.  Please – tell me you’ve taken up kayaking, lost some weight, joined a gym, started eating healthier, or won first place with your bowling league.  I LOVE IT.  If you have photos, that’s even better.

I’m irritated by this article because when I think about the impact, I don’t see any positive outcomes.  Someone who dislikes seeing people’s bumper stickers about their race distances is going to feel validated in their own inactivity, or their inability to be pleased about the accomplishments of others.  Someone who motivated themselves to get off the couch and get active in part because they were excited to earn themselves a specific shirt or car magnet now feels embarrassed that they’re proud of themselves for doing something difficult to improve their health and their lives.  That’s a lot more lame than a run-brag, if you ask me.

If you’ve found something that you love, that brings you joy, that’s healthy and harmless, I hope you do advertise it.  Get people thinking about it, show that it’s an interest of yours and answer questions if a beginner approaches you.  Get yourself a t-shirt proclaiming that you knit, or you’re a tennis freak, or you think rock climbers are some of the most awesome people ever.

Seeing evidence of your successes, your accomplishments, and your passions makes me happy, because I want that for everyone.  And the more of us who show we’ve found it, whatever IT is, the more people around us will be inspired to find something of their own that makes them happy enough to wear a t-shirt with it emblazoned across their chests.

Go ahead, Chad Stafko, buy that 0.0 bumper sticker you have your eye on.  It shows what makes you happy.

Anyone have some bragging they’d like to do?  Because if you do, I’m happy for you, and I’d really like to hear it.

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Eek… what an offensive t-shirt. I can’t believe I wore that in public, and with such a smile, too!

 

Why Aren’t You Running? Troubleshooting Your Roadblocks

One of my neighbors, Abby, is an amazingly talented blogger and sewing designer of stuffed animals.  While She Naps is a great place to learn more about making stuffed animals, and even a great resource of information about improving your blog.  But Abby isn’t just a designer and writer.  She’s also a runner.

A while back, she wrote a post called How I Made Exercise a Part of My Life.  I recently pasted a link to it at the bottom of a post about running and our bodies, because Abby had some powerful things to say on that subject.

As I was re-reading her blog post on making exercise a part of her life, I was struck once again by how Abby systematically dismantled her previous roadblocks to exercising.  She brainstormed all the problems that had previously kept her from running, and found solutions.  Simple, and yet brilliant.

I think this is a fantastic strategy to employ whenever your running, or something else in your life, isn’t going right.  What are the problems?  What’s keeping you from getting out there and accomplishing what you’d like to?  Figure out what the goal is, what the problems are, and come up with some solutions.


Here’s a revelation I had about problem solving: I used to think I could choose between two options: an ideal situation, or nothing.  Example: I will feed my child organic, homemade food, or nothing!  Reality: My child ends up eating Chipotle because I had unrealistic expectations of my own meal planning and grocery shopping abilities that week.  You’re not choosing between ideal world and not doing it… you’re trying to figure out what a practical solution is.  We eat a lot of frozen vegetables now, because for a while I was buying raw vegetables, running out of time, and feeding my kids meals without vegetables.  When I started using my brain, I started buying and microwaving the frozen vegetables.  Be honest with yourself about whether the solution you’ve come up with is something you’ll actually do!

Sometimes, the solution may not be ideal.  Sometimes I go for a run while I’m paying a babysitter, even though I should be meal planning or cleaning or folding laundry.  I basically gave up television during my half marathon training so that I could catch up on housework in the evenings that I’d gotten behind on by running more during the day.

But if it’s important to you, it’s worth figuring out.

In Abby Glassenberg’s style, here are some of my previous roadblocks to running, and how I’ve solved them:

Sometimes running is worth making a little sacrifice for.

Problem: Couch to 5k is designed to help you get to a fitness level where you can run 3 miles without stopping.  This is awesome, but it made me feel pressure to never take any walking breaks on my runs.  This meant that I wasn’t enjoying my runs, because when I lose my breath too much running, I feel panicky and like I’m drowning and want to stop.  So, I was running really slow, all the time, so I wouldn’t have to stop, and I wasn’t enjoying myself.  If I did take a break, I felt bad about it.

Solution: I let it go.  I paused at stop lights on my long runs, and took photos, and just enjoyed being out there and running the miles I was running.  I stopped telling myself that I’d just run 3 miles four times, and appreciated the fact that no, I ran 12 miles, thank you, and it was hard and awesome and I deserved to pause a couple times and rest during that.  I also realized, after my half marathon, that taking those short pauses on my long runs didn’t negatively impact my training.  If anything, they improved it by allowing me to run further and appreciate and enjoy my running.  I still take a break after running hard for ten minutes… I save the drowning, without air feeling for races.

Problem: I seriously dislike running in high heat, sunshine, and humidity.

Solution: I run early in the morning during the summer, or listen to podcasts and run on the treadmill where there’s air conditioning.  I keep afternoon runs when it’s hot capped at 3 miles or less, and I run them slower.  I sign up for more spring and fall races than summer ones.  A note on early morning running: if you do it regularly, you will start going to bed and falling asleep earlier, and then it won’t be as hard!

Problem: I sometimes feel like everything should be perfect in order for me to go for a run.  I should be perfectly hydrated, have plenty of time, not have had a glass of wine the night before, etc.  I used to treat every run like it was a race day, where if I was overtired or not pefectly prepared, I would just skip it rather than having a frustrating run.

Solution: I relaxed.  A twenty minute run when you’re pinched for time is better than no run at all.  If you cramp, you can start walking, so don’t worry about whether you’re perfectly hydrated, go find out.  I’ll throw on my running shoes and hit the ground and do the best I can under the circumstances now, and I find that it gives me extra runs in my weeks that otherwise wouldn’t happen.  Sometimes, I’m surprised by how well these runs go!

Problem: I will never be as fast as my husband, I can barely keep up with the mother’s forum running club, and I feel like everyone I know runs faster than I do.  Except, inevitably, when I say so it turns out I’m talking to someone who runs slower than I do and then I have to apologize profusely.

Solution: I started a running blog to connect to other runners, and have since realized that my pace doesn’t matter.  I get out there, and I work hard, and I run, and maybe it takes me more time than you to achieve my miles or less time, but we still share this amazing, common experience of working hard because we believe that running will make us, and our lives, better.  So who gives a rat’s bacteria how fast you are compared to someone else?  What matters is how much you’re enjoying whatever goals you’ve set for yourself now, whether it’s running regularly, running longer, getting faster, or using running to meet some new people.

Thanks to Abby for her great post on running that still has me thinking months later!

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Have you caught the wrong Running Bug?

You’ve probably heard the term “running bug” thrown around by enthusiasts.  “I caught the running bug!  I just love it!  I’ve run 10 marathons!  It’s amazing!”

Yay, yay, and yay!  Except “running bug” sounds like a disease.  You know, I was out running, I ran into some other runners, we chatted, I breathed too close to them, and now I have this sickness that affects my running.  I no longer feel accomplished unless I’m shooting for a new distance or a new PR.  The second I get one, I have to look forward to the next one.  I’m not satisfied with my runs unless I’m pushing hard, all the time, and getting better.  I used to love running, but now, I anxiously check the weather for each race and analyze the hills and worry that I’m going to be slowed down by the conditions and all this hard work will be for NOTHING because that magic number on the race clock when I cross the finish line won’t reflect enough improvement for me to be happy.

Yikes… if this sounds like you, you’ve caught the wrong running bug.  Maybe it was from another runner, or maybe you drank some bad water, or maybe it’s just really hard to plateau in something when you made so much progress as a beginner and now you’re not.

Whatever the reason, I have to just put it out there that you can love running, get health benefits from running, and be a real runner without constantly pushing for improvement.  At some point in your life, you’re going to stop improving.   I think working hard towards a goal is a wonderful thing, but it requires reasonable expectations and it’s not fun to do all the time.  We are all aging, our lives and the time we have for running will change, it all changes.  To be a lifelong runner, we have to love the run and not just the results.

Other posts you may enjoy:

What’s Next After C25K – Choosing Running Goals

Why You’re a Real Runner

i am running this

It was June 2nd.  The morning of my first 10k.  I’d been training for it since April, and I was excited.  I’d run 7 miles before, but not without stopping for a couple breaks.  Part of me still felt like I’d just run three miles, twice, with an extra mile tacked on as an afterthought.
We live in Massachusetts, and early June here usually means cool mornings and highs in the mid-seventies, so that’s what I was used to running in.  Instead, our race day dawned hot, sunny, and humid.  High in the mid nineties, so humid that you were uncomfortable standing still in the shade.
Awesome.
The heat, humidity, and my inexperience with pacing meant that if I was going to run this race, I knew I had to run slower than I’d been running on my training runs.  I slowed it down.  I jogged.  I listened to my race playlist until it ran out because I was so far behind schedule.
As I ran, I watched two other women sprint, then walk, sprint, then walk, passing me over and over again.  The temptation to walk every time they slowed down was extreme.  The temptation to sprint myself to get past them was even greater.  Instead, I held my pace steady.

I am running this.  I am not going to walk, and sprint, and walk, I AM RUNNING THIS.  I do not care how long it takes me.  I am running THIS.  i am running this.

Over and over, they slowed to a walk and I jogged by them.  Over and over again, they would run past me moments later, as I reminded myself, iamrunningthis.

Towards the end, I stopped noticing them.  I was running this, and that was all that mattered.
With silent determination and the unstop-ability of a bulldozer, I jogged straight through to the finish.  Sometimes, it takes courage to slow down.  But I knew.  I was running this.  They finished just ahead of me.  I won.

June 2nd, 2013

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